Imagine waking up one morning, you grab your phone to check notifications as usual, only this time, you see tons of messages from friends and family, including random strangers on your social media accounts and while you're still trying to figure out The what's happening, there it was, your nude pictures / videos have been leaked and it's trending on the internet.
As awful as it sounds, unfortunately, this is the reality of many Nigerian ladies who have fallen victim to this situation. If you're experiencing / have a similar problem or you want to know how to handle this situation, then you should read every bid of this post because it's specifically for you.
What Not To Do When Your Nudes Are Leaked Online
No one can understand the pain of having their nudes leaked online as the victims themselves . It's a bridge of privacy and trust that can throw anyone into immense emotional distress and can tarnish their self-esteem, yet in these hard moments, many women end up making these mistakes which can only worsen the situation.
- Don't Panic: Try as much as possible not to panic because it will make you lose focus and you won't know what to do in such terrible circumstances. Take a deep breath and try to keep calm while you think.
- Don't Put The Blame On Yourself: you trusted someone with your private pictures / videos and they broke the trust, thereby putting you in this awful situation. , They did it without your consent for whatever reason, so let guilt judge them! It's not your burden to carry . Don't beat up yourself for that.
- Don't Pay a dime And Avoid Contact With The Perpetrators: In most cases, victims often get blackmailed by the perpetrators before or after the nudes are leaked . They usually ask for payments in cash or kind and if you oblige to their request, they will bend you to their will forever. There's no escape from blackmail. So it's best not to pay a dime, just block them off when they contact you.
- Don't Isolate Yourself: Yes, having your private pictures or videos flying around in public can be pretty embarrassing, but isolating yourself is far more dangerous. Surround yourself with friends and family who love and understand you, people who know your true-self, people who are there for you to lean on in these difficult moments in your life. Remember the internet is a wild place and nothing lasts forever . It won't take much time before something crazy happens and everyone will eventually forget about this.
- Don't pay attention to critics online: Everyone definitely has an opinion on any topic online, especially on a sensitive topic like this . Some are bound to say mean things out of ignorance, so take your eyes off such comments if you must read them. Otherwise, it's better to stay away from the comments so you don't end up seeing things that will cause you more pain.
What to do when your nudes are leaked online
Knowing what not to do is the first step towards recovering from leaked nude trauma . The next step is knowing what to do and here's a list of things you can do when your nudes are leaked:
- Get them off the internet: Identify any sites your nudes are posted and contact the administrator to take them down immediately let them understand you have the right to privacy and can sue anyone who invades your privacy. Also, report any social media accounts that post or promote your nudes without your consent . Thankfully, almost all social media sites like Facebook, X, Telegram have an option for reporting accounts that violate your rights.
- Report to local police: You can report any person you know is reliable for the leakage and have them arrested. If you're threatened or under blackmail, you can let the police investigate and handle the issue professionally.
- Find support groupst: If ever you feel alone and don't have anyone to talk to about it, find support groups online for ladies who are either going through the same situations or have experienced it in the past, this way you can be confident to share your story with people who understand your situation and you'll definitely feel better.
- Take some time off the internet : It is said that you have to go off the internet because of other people's actions. but it's best to stay away from all the negative and chaos online if you can't handle it.
- Remember this: People are going to laugh at you and try to make you feel like the devil . Don't pay any attention to them, they'll never understand your worth or what it feels like to be betrayed, so channel your energy and mindset towards your recovery journey. I have said this and I'll still say it again. The internet is a wild place and there's always going to be something new to talk about every time. People will likely forget about this in a month or two and before you know it, everything will be back to normal, so stay strong girl! You got this.
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